When I first came to Romania, I fell in love with a little kitten. He died only a month later from complications from worms, and I buried him in the forest here, in a country that was still almost entirely new to me. Around his little grave were some enormous snails, slowly moving across the moss. The image stayed with me and I later read about the symbolism of snails, who embody their homes. Over the past year, as my relationship with the idea of home has become much more co

There is a kind of labor that disappears almost as soon as it is done. The table is set, food appears, candles are lit, and somehow there are enough chairs. Someone remembered that one person does not eat meat and another needs a ride. New people are introduced so no one stands awkwardly alone, the music feels right, the room is warm, and by the time everyone arrives, it can seem as though the gathering simply came into being on its own. But someone imagined it first. The Mag

I am the keeper of ordinary things— the soup stirred slowly, the candle burned down to its end, the chair pulled closer when someone needs to stay. I have learned that home does not make itself. It is built in the returning, in the sweeping up, in the trying again, in choosing what belongs here and what will never cross the threshold again. There are easier kinds of magic. But mine has always been this: to take what the world has given me and decide what it will become. To ma

Autumn in Transylvania is breathtaking. Golden forests spread across the Carpathians, mist curls through the mountains and settles around medieval towers, and the markets fill with apples, walnuts, mushrooms, and the abundance of the season. It is the kind of beauty I dreamed about before moving here, and there are moments when it still catches me completely by surprise. Yet, as the air cools and the leaves begin to fall, I find myself aching for another kind of autumn—the on

Every holiday table rests on labor that begins long before anyone sits down to eat. Someone decides what will be served, remembers what everyone likes, works around allergies and preferences, makes the list, shops for ingredients, checks what is already in the cupboard, calculates when everything needs to go into the oven, and notices the thing everyone else has forgotten. Then come the more visible tasks: chopping, kneading, stirring, lifting, tasting, setting the table, was

This year, I walked through more grief than I thought I could handle. There were many moments when I was sure I would break. Sometimes I still feel like I might. This was not a year of gentle transition or peaceful endings. It was a year that felt cruel. I willingly left an ecosystem I loved more dearly than I had ever loved anything. I left a life that had grown thick with meaning and texture. I miss my dog and my old cat Hector with an ache that doesn’t leave. I miss feedin

For a long time, I accepted the New Year the way most of us are taught to: a clean line between what was and what might be, a moment of collective pause followed almost immediately by the expectation of renewal. We count down together, turn the calendar, and wake the next morning in a year that has somehow been declared new. I have always liked the ritual more than I believed the story behind it. There is something lovely about gathering with friends at a threshold, raising a

Immigration is often framed as a decisive break, the before and the after, but that framing hasn't matched my lived reality. What I have experienced instead is a long, unsettled middle. An experience where one foot remains planted in what I lost (or still attempting to untangle from), while the other figures out how to step into a life that is still forming. This in-between space is not dramatic or cinematic. It is quiet, demanding, and persistent. It follows me through ordin

Thanksgiving used to be one of the most intentional days of my year. Not because of patriotism or tradition—actually the opposite. For a decade, I opened my home to anyone who wanted a place to land. My table wasn’t about turkey or spectacle; it was an annual practice in truth-telling and community. I cooked Indigenous foods, played PBS’s We Shall Remain , and held space for conversation about the real history of the holiday. It was part education, part ritual, and part quiet

There are cities that decorate for Christmas, and then there is Brașov, a place that seems particularly made for winter. As December settles over the Carpathians, darkness comes early, snow gathers on the mountains, and the medieval center transforms beneath thousands of lights. Garlands stretch between centuries-old buildings, stars hang above the streets, and Piața Sfatului glows beneath the surrounding rooftops. This is my first Christmas in Romania, and one of the things

There comes a point in every great transition when the horizon disappears. The plans that once gave you direction crumble. The numbers stop making sense. The people who promised to stay fade into their own uncertainty. And suddenly, you’re left standing in the ashes of what used to feel solid, with no clear path ahead. It is a particular kind of emptiness because you have not only lost something behind you; you have lost your ability to picture what comes next. The old dream

Walk through almost any historic town in southern Transylvania and you will find traces of another world. There are fortified churches rising above villages, cobbled squares surrounded by pastel houses, old guild towers, Gothic spires, and German names that still sit beside Romanian ones: Kronstadt for Brașov, Hermannstadt for Sibiu, Schäßburg for Sighișoara. These are traces of the Transylvanian Saxons, a German-speaking population whose history here stretches back nearly ni

When suppression begins to take root, it rarely arrives all at once. More often, something changes in the atmosphere first. People begin measuring their words more carefully. A subject that once belonged to ordinary conversation becomes something discussed only with certain people. Someone lowers their voice before saying what everyone in the room already knows. People learn which opinions carry consequences, which questions are better left unasked, and which parts of themsel

When the world feels uncertain, the simple act of preparing food and water becomes something more than an ordinary household task. It is a ritual of care, a declaration that life will continue even when the systems around us falter. A stocked pantry is not fear. It is foresight, the quiet and steady work of making sure there is enough to carry ourselves and the people we love through whatever comes. For most of human history, this was simply part of keeping a household. Food

When the ground shifts beneath us, there is a question that can become almost unbearable: Do I stay and fight for the place I love, or do I leave to protect myself and the people who depend on me? Leaving can feel like betrayal, particularly when other people cannot leave or have chosen to stay. There can be a sense that departure means abandoning the struggle at precisely the moment when courage is required, while staying becomes evidence of commitment. History is full of pe

Tending the hearth has never only been about comfort — it has always been about survival. In calmer times, a stocked pantry or an extra...

A hearth doesn’t disappear just because the walls around it are temporary. Sometimes the fire burns in borrowed spaces — a short-term rental, a friend’s spare room, a hotel, even a place that doesn’t feel like “yours” at all. In these in-between moments, the hearth is less about permanence and more about imagination. I’ve learned that even when life feels transient, I can still kindle that sense of home. Sometimes it is as simple as brewing coffee the way I love, letting the

The image we conjure of the hearth is solid —it's a stone fireplace, a warm table, a circle of chairs where people gather. But what happens when the hearthkeeper herself has no home? When life is in transition, when the house is sold, when exile or migration means everything familiar is left behind — does the hearth go out? The truth is, the hearth has never only been brick and mortar. It has always been carried in the hands and hearts of those who tend it. History is full of