When I first came to Romania, I fell in love with a little kitten. He died only a month later from complications from worms, and I buried him in the forest here, in a country that was still almost entirely new to me. Around his little grave were some enormous snails, slowly moving across the moss. The image stayed with me and I later read about the symbolism of snails, who embody their homes. Over the past year, as my relationship with the idea of home has become much more co

A year ago, I wrote about why I chose Romania. I wrote about democracy indexes and homicide rates, immigration pathways and cost of living. I wrote about the Carpathians reminding me of the Appalachians, about history that was still being lived instead of preserved behind museum glass, and about choosing my home carefully because I couldn’t afford to uproot my life over again. I still believe in all of that research. Maybe even more than I did then. But a year is long enough

Autumn in Transylvania is breathtaking. Golden forests spread across the Carpathians, mist curls through the mountains and settles around medieval towers, and the markets fill with apples, walnuts, mushrooms, and the abundance of the season. It is the kind of beauty I dreamed about before moving here, and there are moments when it still catches me completely by surprise. Yet, as the air cools and the leaves begin to fall, I find myself aching for another kind of autumn—the on

We moved to Romania thinking the house would follow us. That was the plan: leave, list, sell, move forward. Clean. Simple. That's the kind of transition you imagine when you are still in the part of deciding that follows orders. But the reality we walked was harsher. The renovations stalled. The listing got delayed. When the house finally went up, there were four walkthroughs. Four. We dropped the price by seventy thousand dollars and still the house sat. Empty. The sixty tho

No one is entitled to me. Not my presence, not my voice, not my endurance. And I am entitled to seek my own safety, even when that inconveniences someone else, even when it disrupts something they were counting on, even when they never quite forgive me for it. I did not always know that. I had to learn it. Over and over, though each chapter wore a different face. Nobody told me I had to stay. Not directly. Not using words. It's all subtle. A hesitation when I mentioned leavin

The loneliest I have ever been, I was also the most visible. I was posting, sharing, building something. Or maybe trying to. A career from a story, a platform from a belief system, a community from an algorithm. I was shouting into the internet about things I genuinely cared about, trying to help people, trying to matter in the way American culture tells you mattering is supposed to look: reach, engagement, followers, impact you can measure on a dashboard. And I was desperate

This year, I walked through more grief than I thought I could handle. There were many moments when I was sure I would break. Sometimes I still feel like I might. This was not a year of gentle transition or peaceful endings. It was a year that felt cruel. I willingly left an ecosystem I loved more dearly than I had ever loved anything. I left a life that had grown thick with meaning and texture. I miss my dog and my old cat Hector with an ache that doesn’t leave. I miss feedin

Immigration is often framed as a decisive break, the before and the after, but that framing hasn't matched my lived reality. What I have experienced instead is a long, unsettled middle. An experience where one foot remains planted in what I lost (or still attempting to untangle from), while the other figures out how to step into a life that is still forming. This in-between space is not dramatic or cinematic. It is quiet, demanding, and persistent. It follows me through ordin

People often ask why I chose Romania, and I always have trouble giving a short answer because there wasn’t one reason. It was the result of a lot of research into what actually makes a country livable: safety, political stability, cost of living, healthcare, immigration, infrastructure, and the realities of daily life. But I was also looking for somewhere I could imagine genuinely enjoying my life. I cared about landscape, seasons, history, culture, community, and whether I t

I’ve been carrying a heavy mix of emotions lately. Back home, in the streets where I grew up, innocent and hardworking Mexican immigrants are being taken into big unmarked trucks — disappeared under the cover of night. Families are left wondering where their loved one is and if they will ever see them again. Dreams are erased. People who have built lives among people they thought were friends are treated like they don’t belong anymore. Watching those videos makes something in

Thanksgiving used to be one of the most intentional days of my year. Not because of patriotism or tradition—actually the opposite. For a decade, I opened my home to anyone who wanted a place to land. My table wasn’t about turkey or spectacle; it was an annual practice in truth-telling and community. I cooked Indigenous foods, played PBS’s We Shall Remain , and held space for conversation about the real history of the holiday. It was part education, part ritual, and part quiet

My need to explain myself was louder when I was younger. My confidence filled rooms, asserting things I only half understood, held opinions the way you hold something you're not sure you're allowed to put down. I look back at some of those positions and wince. But I was also learning something in that period that took years to finish learning: what my own voice actually sounds like when it isn't performing for a room. Over time, my fire settled into something steadier and mor

When the recent Epstein emails surfaced, I expected an appropriate response to the gross exploitation of minors by powerful men. What I did not expect was to hear a familiar argument entering mainstream discourse: not that sexual exploitation of children is acceptable, exactly, but that perhaps some of these girls were old enough that we should think about it differently. “He wasn’t a pedophile. He was into the barely legal type.” “He liked 15-year-old girls.” “He wasn’t into

There comes a point in every great transition when the horizon disappears. The plans that once gave you direction crumble. The numbers stop making sense. The people who promised to stay fade into their own uncertainty. And suddenly, you’re left standing in the ashes of what used to feel solid, with no clear path ahead. It is a particular kind of emptiness because you have not only lost something behind you; you have lost your ability to picture what comes next. The old dream

For those who have lost almost everything and are still daring to begin again. When you choose to move, truly move, not as a tourist or an adventurer but as someone rebuilding from the ashes, you step into a life that demands trust. Not the easy kind of trust that comes with clear plans and safety nets, but the kind that asks you to keep moving even when you cannot see very far ahead. There is only so much you can plan before moving to another country. Eventually you arrive,

Relocating to another country brings plenty of obvious challenges. There are documents to gather, money to save, belongings to sort, goodbyes to make, and an extraordinary number of practical decisions that suddenly seem to depend on one another. What I was less prepared for was how much relocation would change my relationships with people who weren’t moving at all. When you make a significant change to your life, other people inevitably have feelings about it. Some will surp

A hearth doesn’t disappear just because the walls around it are temporary. Sometimes the fire burns in borrowed spaces — a short-term rental, a friend’s spare room, a hotel, even a place that doesn’t feel like “yours” at all. In these in-between moments, the hearth is less about permanence and more about imagination. I’ve learned that even when life feels transient, I can still kindle that sense of home. Sometimes it is as simple as brewing coffee the way I love, letting the

The image we conjure of the hearth is solid —it's a stone fireplace, a warm table, a circle of chairs where people gather. But what happens when the hearthkeeper herself has no home? When life is in transition, when the house is sold, when exile or migration means everything familiar is left behind — does the hearth go out? The truth is, the hearth has never only been brick and mortar. It has always been carried in the hands and hearts of those who tend it. History is full of