When I first came to Romania, I fell in love with a little kitten. He died only a month later from complications from worms, and I buried him in the forest here, in a country that was still almost entirely new to me. Around his little grave were some enormous snails, slowly moving across the moss. The image stayed with me and I later read about the symbolism of snails, who embody their homes. Over the past year, as my relationship with the idea of home has become much more co

A year ago, I wrote about why I chose Romania. I wrote about democracy indexes and homicide rates, immigration pathways and cost of living. I wrote about the Carpathians reminding me of the Appalachians, about history that was still being lived instead of preserved behind museum glass, and about choosing my home carefully because I couldn’t afford to uproot my life over again. I still believe in all of that research. Maybe even more than I did then. But a year is long enough

For more than a decade, I dreamed of living in Europe. I imagined old cities, village life, traditions shaped over generations, and the possibility of building a life that felt a little more intentional. When we finally moved to Romania, it wasn’t an impulsive escape or a sudden reinvention. It was something I had been moving toward for a very long time. What I couldn’t fully imagine was everything that would come after the move itself. The past year has involved immigration

I am the keeper of ordinary things— the soup stirred slowly, the candle burned down to its end, the chair pulled closer when someone needs to stay. I have learned that home does not make itself. It is built in the returning, in the sweeping up, in the trying again, in choosing what belongs here and what will never cross the threshold again. There are easier kinds of magic. But mine has always been this: to take what the world has given me and decide what it will become. To ma

Autumn in Transylvania is breathtaking. Golden forests spread across the Carpathians, mist curls through the mountains and settles around medieval towers, and the markets fill with apples, walnuts, mushrooms, and the abundance of the season. It is the kind of beauty I dreamed about before moving here, and there are moments when it still catches me completely by surprise. Yet, as the air cools and the leaves begin to fall, I find myself aching for another kind of autumn—the on

We moved to Romania thinking the house would follow us. That was the plan: leave, list, sell, move forward. Clean. Simple. That's the kind of transition you imagine when you are still in the part of deciding that follows orders. But the reality we walked was harsher. The renovations stalled. The listing got delayed. When the house finally went up, there were four walkthroughs. Four. We dropped the price by seventy thousand dollars and still the house sat. Empty. The sixty tho

No one is entitled to me. Not my presence, not my voice, not my endurance. And I am entitled to seek my own safety, even when that inconveniences someone else, even when it disrupts something they were counting on, even when they never quite forgive me for it. I did not always know that. I had to learn it. Over and over, though each chapter wore a different face. Nobody told me I had to stay. Not directly. Not using words. It's all subtle. A hesitation when I mentioned leavin

The loneliest I have ever been, I was also the most visible. I was posting, sharing, building something. Or maybe trying to. A career from a story, a platform from a belief system, a community from an algorithm. I was shouting into the internet about things I genuinely cared about, trying to help people, trying to matter in the way American culture tells you mattering is supposed to look: reach, engagement, followers, impact you can measure on a dashboard. And I was desperate

In a few days, my shipping container will leave the New York port and head across the ocean to Constanța, Romania. It holds my books, my instruments, family heirlooms, spiritual items, keepsakes, and some furniture — a twenty-foot container packed with the material record of a life I am moving across an ocean. Everyone, it turns out, has an opinion about this. And there is a particular opinion that echoes, over and over. Did you really need to bring all of that? And the meani

Somewhere on your feed right now, someone is posting a photograph of a windowsill. There is morning light. There is a ceramic mug. There may be a linen curtain, or a garden glimpsed through old glass, or a book left open at a significant page. The caption reads something like: I discovered this is all I need. Or: staying home and being satisfied is a quiet revolution. Or: I finally chose the simple life. That word, chose, is doing enormous work. It is converting a question of

Most Americans who celebrate Easter assume everyone celebrates on the same Sunday. The date is familiar, the traditions broadly recognizable — baskets, eggs, a church service, a family meal. What far fewer Americans know is that for the roughly 300 million Orthodox Christians in the world, Easter falls on an entirely different Sunday, sometimes weeks later, calculated by a different calendar and a different set of ecclesiastical rules. In 2026, Western Easter falls on April 5

Today is Floriile , Flowers' Sunday, and the weather in Bran decided to celebrate, too. The sun is out, the air has finally conceded to spring, and the people around me seem to be doing exactly what the holiday asks: visiting outside, turning toward the light, paying attention to the flowers. As an immigrant, I am continually thrilled by the rhythm of the unexpected holidays here. I did not know that the Orthodox calendar would hand me a holiday whose entire orientation is to

There is a peculiar heartache that comes with leaving a country during political instability. The borders, paperwork, logistics, and difficulties of beginning again are expected. What I did not anticipate was how much departure would change the relationships around me. Leaving is rarely received as a neutral decision. People assign meaning to it, sometimes because they disagree with your reasons, sometimes because they are frightened for you, and sometimes simply because your

Grounding is often offered as relief: a way to calm down, feel better, or create some distance from distress. There is nothing inherently wrong with relief. Sometimes the nervous system needs exactly that. But when the world is unstable, grief is active, or fear has a reasonable cause, feeling better is not always the most important objective. Sometimes the work is not to transcend what is happening, but to remain present enough to live within it without being overwhelmed. Th

Immigration is often framed as a decisive break, the before and the after, but that framing hasn't matched my lived reality. What I have experienced instead is a long, unsettled middle. An experience where one foot remains planted in what I lost (or still attempting to untangle from), while the other figures out how to step into a life that is still forming. This in-between space is not dramatic or cinematic. It is quiet, demanding, and persistent. It follows me through ordin

People often ask why I chose Romania, and I always have trouble giving a short answer because there wasn’t one reason. It was the result of a lot of research into what actually makes a country livable: safety, political stability, cost of living, healthcare, immigration, infrastructure, and the realities of daily life. But I was also looking for somewhere I could imagine genuinely enjoying my life. I cared about landscape, seasons, history, culture, community, and whether I t

Thanksgiving used to be one of the most intentional days of my year. Not because of patriotism or tradition—actually the opposite. For a decade, I opened my home to anyone who wanted a place to land. My table wasn’t about turkey or spectacle; it was an annual practice in truth-telling and community. I cooked Indigenous foods, played PBS’s We Shall Remain , and held space for conversation about the real history of the holiday. It was part education, part ritual, and part quiet

There are cities that decorate for Christmas, and then there is Brașov, a place that seems particularly made for winter. As December settles over the Carpathians, darkness comes early, snow gathers on the mountains, and the medieval center transforms beneath thousands of lights. Garlands stretch between centuries-old buildings, stars hang above the streets, and Piața Sfatului glows beneath the surrounding rooftops. This is my first Christmas in Romania, and one of the things

In the United States, higher education is supposed to represent possibility. For many people, it feels more like a locked gate with a price tag hanging from the handle. Families watch tuition climb into numbers that once would have sounded absurd, while students are asked to make enormous financial decisions before their adult lives have properly begun. Some eventually decide that college “just isn’t for them,” not because they lack curiosity, ambition, or ability, but becaus

Romania stands at a cultural crossroads. It is a member of the European Union, governed by European human-rights obligations and increasingly connected to a continent where LGBTQ+ rights have expanded dramatically over the past generation. At the same time, it remains a deeply traditional country in many respects, shaped by Orthodox Christianity, family-centered social expectations, the complicated inheritance of communism, and a strong instinct toward privacy in personal lif