When I first came to Romania, I fell in love with a little kitten. He died only a month later from complications from worms, and I buried him in the forest here, in a country that was still almost entirely new to me. Around his little grave were some enormous snails, slowly moving across the moss. The image stayed with me and I later read about the symbolism of snails, who embody their homes. Over the past year, as my relationship with the idea of home has become much more co

For more than a decade, I dreamed of living in Europe. I imagined old cities, village life, traditions shaped over generations, and the possibility of building a life that felt a little more intentional. When we finally moved to Romania, it wasn’t an impulsive escape or a sudden reinvention. It was something I had been moving toward for a very long time. What I couldn’t fully imagine was everything that would come after the move itself. The past year has involved immigration

We moved to Romania thinking the house would follow us. That was the plan: leave, list, sell, move forward. Clean. Simple. That's the kind of transition you imagine when you are still in the part of deciding that follows orders. But the reality we walked was harsher. The renovations stalled. The listing got delayed. When the house finally went up, there were four walkthroughs. Four. We dropped the price by seventy thousand dollars and still the house sat. Empty. The sixty tho

Somewhere on your feed right now, someone is posting a photograph of a windowsill. There is morning light. There is a ceramic mug. There may be a linen curtain, or a garden glimpsed through old glass, or a book left open at a significant page. The caption reads something like: I discovered this is all I need. Or: staying home and being satisfied is a quiet revolution. Or: I finally chose the simple life. That word, chose, is doing enormous work. It is converting a question of

This year, I walked through more grief than I thought I could handle. There were many moments when I was sure I would break. Sometimes I still feel like I might. This was not a year of gentle transition or peaceful endings. It was a year that felt cruel. I willingly left an ecosystem I loved more dearly than I had ever loved anything. I left a life that had grown thick with meaning and texture. I miss my dog and my old cat Hector with an ache that doesn’t leave. I miss feedin

I refuse to organize my life around the narrative of self-development. I say that as someone who was not just a consumer of it. I was a vehicle. I was a coach. I spoke the language fluently. I helped move others along the same conveyor belt I was standing on myself. I believed in growth. I still do. But what that industry quietly demanded was not growth with an end point. It demanded perpetual motion. Self-development was always about more . More insight. More healing. More r

For a long time, I accepted the New Year the way most of us are taught to: a clean line between what was and what might be, a moment of collective pause followed almost immediately by the expectation of renewal. We count down together, turn the calendar, and wake the next morning in a year that has somehow been declared new. I have always liked the ritual more than I believed the story behind it. There is something lovely about gathering with friends at a threshold, raising a

Immigration is often framed as a decisive break, the before and the after, but that framing hasn't matched my lived reality. What I have experienced instead is a long, unsettled middle. An experience where one foot remains planted in what I lost (or still attempting to untangle from), while the other figures out how to step into a life that is still forming. This in-between space is not dramatic or cinematic. It is quiet, demanding, and persistent. It follows me through ordin

People often ask why I chose Romania, and I always have trouble giving a short answer because there wasn’t one reason. It was the result of a lot of research into what actually makes a country livable: safety, political stability, cost of living, healthcare, immigration, infrastructure, and the realities of daily life. But I was also looking for somewhere I could imagine genuinely enjoying my life. I cared about landscape, seasons, history, culture, community, and whether I t

I’ve been carrying a heavy mix of emotions lately. Back home, in the streets where I grew up, innocent and hardworking Mexican immigrants are being taken into big unmarked trucks — disappeared under the cover of night. Families are left wondering where their loved one is and if they will ever see them again. Dreams are erased. People who have built lives among people they thought were friends are treated like they don’t belong anymore. Watching those videos makes something in

Thanksgiving used to be one of the most intentional days of my year. Not because of patriotism or tradition—actually the opposite. For a decade, I opened my home to anyone who wanted a place to land. My table wasn’t about turkey or spectacle; it was an annual practice in truth-telling and community. I cooked Indigenous foods, played PBS’s We Shall Remain , and held space for conversation about the real history of the holiday. It was part education, part ritual, and part quiet

If you’re reading this because you’re considering a move abroad, or because you already have and are still processing that decision, I understand why history might become part of the question. It certainly became part of mine. I spent a long time in the historical record before I felt clear about my own decision, looking at what people had done when governments became unstable, institutions weakened, or the political future of a country became frighteningly uncertain. What I

When autumn arrives in Transylvania, the air grows sharp and metallic, and the forests shed their color until the bones of the mountains begin to show through. Smoke rises from the first hearth fires, curling above tiled roofs and lingering in the cold. The villages seem to draw inward. Gardens empty, wood is stacked, evenings come earlier, and the mountains that felt green and generous in summer become darker around their edges. I came to this season carrying Halloween with

This message is an invitation to stay awake. The world is shifting quickly, and uncertainty has a way of making people search for a deadline. The question keeps surfacing: How long do we have? How long before leaving becomes harder, before circumstances change, before the options available today are no longer available tomorrow? I don’t think anyone can answer that honestly. There is no reliable countdown, and history does not give us a neat sequence of stages that tells us w

The Keeper of the Flame In every culture, there are keepers of the flame—those who carry the memory of a people across generations, adapting it to new languages, new screens, and new worlds. In Romania, one of those keepers is Corneliu Țepeluș, a filmmaker, storyteller, and cultural ambassador whose life has been shaped by the timeless human pursuit of immortality—not the kind that denies death, but the kind that ensures meaning endures. His work bridges the mystical and the

If you’re carrying U.S. student loan debt and dreaming of a life abroad, conventional financial advice can make the dream feel irresponsible before you’ve even begun. Pay your debts. Protect your credit. Make extra payments. Become financially secure. Then, someday, you will have earned enough freedom to make the choices you actually want. That sequence may make sense when becoming debt-free is realistically a few years away, but it looks very different when repayment will st

This message isn’t meant to alarm. I write because I wholeheartedly believe in informed self-determination, and part of that means being willing to look directly at uncomfortable information without either exaggerating it or explaining it away. There is a strange pressure in uncertain times to choose between panic and denial, as though acknowledging that something concerns us means assuming the worst, while remaining calm requires us to insist that everything is probably fine

One of the things I hear most often when I talk about emigrating is, “I could never afford to do that.” Sometimes that’s true. Moving to another country costs money, and depending on the kind of life someone needs, it can cost quite a lot of it. But I also think many Americans have absolutely no idea what moving abroad actually costs. The idea itself sounds expensive enough that we stop there, without ever getting far enough to find out whether the number we are imagining bea

Many Americans grow up with a fairly distorted idea of which parts of the world are safe. The United States is familiar, and familiarity has a way of feeling like security. Meanwhile, countries we know little about can easily become vaguely dangerous in our imaginations, particularly when they sit somewhere in that broad part of the map Americans learned to call Eastern Europe. Romania still carries some of that reputation. People hear Romania and think about corruption, pove

When suppression begins to take root, it rarely arrives all at once. More often, something changes in the atmosphere first. People begin measuring their words more carefully. A subject that once belonged to ordinary conversation becomes something discussed only with certain people. Someone lowers their voice before saying what everyone in the room already knows. People learn which opinions carry consequences, which questions are better left unasked, and which parts of themsel